To put it in a simple way, we have two dimensions: the body (that follows a physical law) and the mind (that follows an emotional law).
These laws work in opposite ways, but we dont realize this. And it is due to this ignorance that we suffer and conflicts arise, at different levels: family, organisations, nations.
Body and mind have needs, but the way we deal with them have to be different.
To feel happy, body and mind need to be fulfilled in opposite ways:
The body needs to receive energy through food, breathing and sleep. The focus is on receiving, if the body is to survive.
But at the mental/emotional dimension it works the opposite way.
We also need energy to fell happy emotionally.And this energy is Love.
The only way to feel love is by giving it.
Giving love is the way to receive the energy we need to nourish ourselves, mentally / emotionally.
To survive we receive: energy - food, breath, sleep (physical law).
To live we give: energy - love (emotional law).
"All we need is love", we know that. The problem is how to get love.
Because we believe body and mind work the same way, we think to feel happy is to be loved by others. In other words, to fell/be happy we need to receive energy from others. And this ignorance of the emotional laws gives rise to conflicts, power struggles or control dramas as we go about life taking energy from others.
According to Redfield, "this process of psychological
domination can be observed everywhere, and it is the underlying source of
all irrational conflict in the human world, from the level of individuals
and families all the way to cultures and nations".
These "control dramas" fall
along a continuum ranging from very passive to very aggressive. All humans tend toward one of
the four “control dramas” (or energy struggles):
› Victims make us feel guilty and responsible
for them.
› Aloof people attract attention
(and energy) to themselves by acting reserved or withdrawing.
› Interrogators steal it by
judging and questioning.
› Intimidators steal energy from
others by threat.
